How to feel confident in your own body? While my blog primarily focuses on fashion, I want to take a moment to reflect on something that’s important to me and what my message stands for: body confidence.
I get a lot of questions of what courage it takes to stand in front of a camera. Obviously it’s my choice but it doesn’t come easy, especially coming from an introvert who never believed she would ever feel confident in her body. Taking pictures and editing them forces you to look at yourself, even in the most unflattering poses. Life shattering isn’t it. I decided that I would share 7 tips I internalize to create a positive aura and feel confident in my body, well sometimes 😉 .
First you have to promise me that you will always stay body positive especially in a world where we’re made to feel as if we don’t deserve to be stylish and beautiful, due to our size.
Spend more Time in front of the mirror
If you’re like most women who aren’t comfortable with their bodies, you try and avoid yourself in the mirror – especially while nude. Here’s the harsh reality: the mental effects of seeing yourself in the nude more often can actually change your perception of your body, drastically! If you didn’t grow up in a naked house like me, being naked is something I am not super comfortable with. In the shower I look down from the birds view and everything looks larger than it is. I read up on this and started spending a bit more time in front of the mirror in the nude – with the curtains closed. Trust me, it’s such a phsycological thing. We have this certain image of our bodies which we pick apart because we never actually focus on how we actually look. While at first this may be uncomfortable, after forcing your naked image to be in your face more often, you’ll soon get used to seeing your reflection without looking away or picking it apart.
Tell yourself how beautiful you are and you might actually start to believe it. Compliment yourself. Your hair, your beautiful big eyes, your long natural lashes. Whatever your body hang-up is, find a way to change the negative into a positive, and over time, the positive thought will outshine the negative one.
Surround yourself with body-positive people.
I cannot stress this one out. I’m pretty sure we’ve all heard or said the phrase “Why the hell are you complaining, you’re skinny”. I dislike people talking about their bodies and other peoples bodies in a negative way. On one hand, we might not like what we see, but we can still change it. Appearance is how you perceive yourself, it won’t stop you from being more popular, getting that promotion and so on. There’s much worse things in the world going on that having a butt, tiny waist, or long legs like a model. Appreciate that you have a healthy body and cut ties with those who whine about it all the time.
In the past if someone looked my way, I thought it was because they were either laughing inside about how freakishlyI walk in heels, or how my hair is much too big for my head. Now, when I catch someone looking my way, I smile with confidence, even if I don’t necessarily feel confident at the moment. Forcing yourself to smile can trick your mind and body into thinking you feel confident and amazing, and eventually the feelings of insecurity will go away and you will feel confident and amazing.
Sometimes you have to fake it until you make it!